Tips to become a happy couple

Over the weekend, my best friend from high school Casey told me that she has finally confirmed her relationship. I'm so happy for her because she has told me and our other best friend Melissa about all the things that they've been through for almost half a year. She said that her and the guy she likes (now the boyfriend) did not know whether they should be together because they don't want to ruin the friendship and lots of other reasons. Then I just feel like they worried too much instead of focusing on their feelings. I mean, it's good to be aware of these things and be realistic, but if you just keep worrying and not do anything about it, you might be losing the love of your life. Who knows?!

Now I'm just so happy for my friend who's finally deserve a good time and just enjoying the honeymoon phase, and I want to give her and all other couples some tips to become a happy couple. 

Always communicate

I'd say out of everything I'm gonna tell you in this post, this is the takeaway. Always, always, always communicate with your partner. No matter how small, how unimportant, how detailed the things are, even if you think it's stupid to share, share it with your partner. He is there for you to share your experiences with and grow together. Maybe your partner has been exhausted all day, but just maybe that what you'll be telling him will pull him out of his stressful day and relax a bit.

Also, Art of Manliness's post has some really detailed tips on the words people should use to ask for their needs in a relationship.

Be respectful. 

If you are seeing some problems within the relationship, communicate instead of argue. What's the difference? It has to do with the tone of voice and the attitude you carry. If you see it as a huge issue that will ruin your relationship, even I would go crazy, run to my boyfriend, and start crying about it. However, if you see it as a problem that you and your partner will be able to solve together, then it's not as stressful. Rather, it'll be something that you guys talk about to work something out. If your partner doesn't understand, use reasoning, not arguments. I'm sure that your partner can tell if you're being really patient with him and trying really hard for him to understand.

Also, if it's your sad, gloomy days, and maybe will say something that you don't mean, make sure you apologize after. What's even better is if you know you have this habit and you know it's just not your day, tell your partner before hand so you can avoid conflicts. Remember be respectful. 

Understand your differences

You have to understand that you two are very different people. You don't come from the same family nor carry the same values. Maybe you share some interests but not a lot of others. There are a lot of differences, but you just have to work it out by first understanding that you guys don't think the same way. 

The reason I bring this up is that I realize some people will expect their partners to understand how he or she feels, but their partners don't. Then you'll see all sorts of arguments coming out of this misunderstanding. The way I see is to see these differences as something that you get to learn from your partner and as something that can be your topic of conversation. Differences can also help You get to learn to how to make compromises. It's just how relationships work. The differences make a couple work together when the difference is a problem and brings the couple together when it's something that you or your partner wants to share.

Plan your dates

Sometimes, couples just get too busy or too lazy to plan a date because they think that they're already spending time together. But there is a difference between spending time on regular basis and going on a date. Dates often give people a more special meaning. Guys and girls have to dress up a bit, go to places that they normally don't go, be somewhere where their friends won't bother them, and just enjoy the atmosphere. On the regular basis, you might be hanging out with not just each other, but also a group of friends and just talking about how life has been and how school or work has been. Going on dates can spice up the relationship when everything feels too normal or too natural. 

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Well, that's all the tips I have for you now. If I'm not explaining things correctly or if you guys are just confused, feel free to ask me through email, messages, or comments. Also, I know I wrote it as a girl's perspective, but I want you guys to know that these work both ways. 

P.S.: Hey Casey! Remember to keep in contact even if you're in the honeymoon phase!